Have
you ever noticed when you talk to someone your voice actually gets louder and
more forceful? When you argue with someone do you automatically raise your
voice or begin to yell at people. It may be time to examine your behavior as
this kind of behavior is not helpful in getting your job done and gaining
compliance with your orders. One must control their tone and volume of their
voices at all times to avoid misunderstandings, confrontations or unnecessary
arguments.
Raising
your voice is not very helpful or healthy. It creates stress and tension that
is created and often escalated into conflict. Therefore, it is extremely
crucial and important that you are aware of your voice tone and volume at all
times in order to reduce stress, anxiety and conflict in the workplace or
anywhere else you may engage in a controversial conversation.
Are
you the type of person that automatically increase your voice so that you can
create a situation in your favor by being the dominant speaker? If so you may
be damaging your ability to be a better communicator and getting compliance
more effectively. Shouting, yelling or raising your voice is a sign of force.
Force that may be interpreted as aggression or coercion into compliance.
Although some situations may dictate or prescribe such conduct, most situations
do not need to be forceful in mannerism or tone.
Raising
your voice invites interruptions. Interruptions create broken hints of
communication and impairs listening attempts. This is more intense when the two
people shouting or yelling are different genders as one might take this as an
act to dominate the other.
Regardless
of the situation, yelling, shouting or screaming is taken as a sign of
aggression and invites physical confrontations. It also justifies the use of
force by some as they take this as a first step of aggression or assault and
intervene with physical force preempted by the threat of being struck or hit by
the other person.
Therefore,
it is important that you regulate your voice to a volume or tone that does not
imply aggressive behaviors or dominance over the other person. One can identify
a bully as a person that yells or shouts at others to get them under control
and dominate their actions. The louder the voice, the higher the intensity of
angry is created.
Regardless
of intent, yelling or raising your voice is a method used to control the
situation and download to the other person they have to listen to what is being
said in order for the situation to be resolved. However, the actions of those
engaged in yelling or shouting are often misunderstood and create high levels
of negative feelings. This in turns tells them they don’t have to listen and
comply with any words or directives given under such perceived hostile
conditions.
Good
interpersonal communication skills requires sound emotional control. One must
practice to be calm and relaxed under such conditions to be an effective
communicator. Learning how to control the situation and gaining the upper hand
in such potentially violent situations takes a lot of practice and self-control
and does wonders on such sensitive subjects as respect and disrespect of the
other person’s feelings or situations.
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