Are You Boring the Bored?

Have you evaluated yourself lately and determined maybe you need to change your way in having conversations with someone lately? Let’s look at these signs and determine the facts if you are bored or the cause of the boredom – either way there is a need for change if you want to make your conversations more exciting.

Sign #1 – do you repeat your responses with – Oh really? That’s interesting? That’s funny? Or maybe hmmm is that so? – It means your conversation is disengaged and not interesting.

Sign #2 – do you ask simple questions like “where or when did that happen? Where is it? How do you get there? – It means they are trying to be polite not curious at all of your topic.

Sign #3 – are there any interruptions to your words? If there are that’s a good sign but if there aren’t any interruptions, you are being boring.

Sign #4 – Do people paraphrase you or ask for clarification on your words? If they are sincerely interested, they will ask you to elaborate on your words and ask questions.

Sign #5 – Talk time out of balance – who talks more? You or the other persons? For the sake of balancing the conversation, allow interaction equally to share the information being discussed.

Sign # 6 – Observe the body position – are you face to face with the other person? Are they looking away? Are they trying or pretending to be interested in your conversation? Check their attention span and follow their eyes going into space, rolling or gazing elsewhere.

Sign # 7 – Observe the posture – are they slouched or leaning against something as you are speaking? Are they vertical and attentive? Are they fidgeting and looking away or laying down? They are giving you clues you are being boring.

 

Source: Gretchen Rubin - writer